( From Wrestling Insider News magazine with Kyle Dake 4x NCAA Cornell Champion )
Perspective. Life is unfolding exactly how it is supposed to. I’ve poured my heart and soul into the sport of wrestling and have been very fortunate with the amount of success I have experienced. The reason wrestling and winning is so satisfying is the fact that you are putting everything into it: the hard work, the commitment, the time, the sleepless nights, the sacrifices and your body on the line to get your hand raised at the end of the day. And sometimes that doesn’t happen. Losing is an aspect of wrestling that everyone has experienced at some point in their life and it is the response to that losing that brings out who you truly are. Of, course, losing hurts and of course you never want to experience it, but sometimes it is exactly what is supposed to happen. Do I wish I would have won the Olympic Team Trials and had an opportunity to qualify the weight class for the Olympics? Absolutely. But I can’t control what happened in the past. The only thing I can control is the moment I’m living in. Wrestling has shown me time and time again that it is about the journey and not the results. Wrestling is part of who I am and what I do every single day: and because it is such a large part of my life, it has undoubtedly become part of my personal growth. Dealing with adversity and overcoming it is something everyone has to face, some people are fighting every day for their life and that is something I try and realize every day. I am fortunate enough to be part of a great organization called the Spartan Foundation, which is a part of Spartan Race and their goal is to give every single kid an opportunity to be a Spartan even if they are disabled. Speaking and being around these people, who are happier than ever to be alive, puts my life and troubles into perspective. I am a relatively healthy person with everything going for me. My perceived troubles are minuscule; I can’t help but to let them go when I see a child not able to walk or speak because of the way she / he was born, or see kids who don’t have shoes because their families can’t afford them. I’m living a very blessed life. Many of us are. But, we keep our binders on and think life is all about winning and losing, when in fact it is about loving all of our brothers and sisters and helping others in need. We need to help each other. If I can help through the sport of wrestling, then everything that happens is totally worth it.
DAVID TAYLOR ( FORMER PENN STATE ALL AMERICAN )
The first thing you need to do coming of a tournament win or lose, is reflect on each and every match, each position. Where did you win and where did you lose each position ? I’ve taken this a couple of different ways in my own career. Of those three times at the ( World / Olympic ) Trials, I left very frustrated. I didn’t really move forward. I was bummed, my body was hurt and I was just king of ” checked out ” for a period of time. Now I’m ready to get better. A lot of wrestlers or athletes in any sport take a loss negatively or find a way to take it positively. It’s heartbreaking. But there are a lot of other things out there. Wrestling is a small part of what we’re really put here for. It’s about impacting lives in a positive way. It’s influencing others. It’s being a good teammate, husband, son, daughter, finance and boyfriend / girlfriend. Just because wrestling goals didn’t work out, there are still a lot of other great things to be appreciative of. Your support group is who you need to thank the most.